Helping Children and Teens Understand Dementia

When a loved one is diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease or another form of dementia, it can be confusing and emotional for everyone in the family, especially children and teenagers. Young people may struggle to understand why someone they love seems different, forgets important things, or behaves in unexpected ways. At Kemper House, we know that including the whole family in the journey, including the youngest members, helps maintain loving bonds and creates positive, meaningful interactions.

Here are a few ways to help children and teens understand dementia in a way that feels supportive and reassuring:

1. Be Honest, but Age-Appropriate

Children often sense when something is wrong, even if they don’t fully understand it. Offer simple, clear explanations suited to their age. For younger children, you might say, “Grandpa’s brain isn’t working the way it used to, and that makes it hard for him to remember things.” Teens can usually handle a bit more detail, including learning that dementia is a disease that affects memory, thinking, and behavior over time.

2. Normalize Their Feelings

It’s common for young people to feel a mix of sadness, frustration, fear, or even embarrassment. Let them know that all of these emotions are normal. Encourage open conversations and remind them that it’s okay to ask questions and okay not to have all the answers.

3. Focus on What Remains

Help children and teens recognize that while some things have changed, the person they love is still there. They may no longer remember a birthday or get a name exactly right, but the core of who they are and the love they feel often remains strong. Focus visits on simple joys like holding hands, listening to music, or sharing a favorite snack.

4. Prepare Them for Changes

Before visits, gently explain what they might expect. For example, you could say, “Grandma might not know who you are today, but she will still be happy to see your smile.” This helps set realistic expectations and reduces fear or confusion during the visit.

5. Encourage Meaningful Interaction

Even if conversation is limited, young family members can find other ways to connect:

• Drawing pictures together

• Looking through old family photos

• Reading a short story aloud

• Playing simple games or listening to music

These shared experiences create opportunities for connection without relying solely on memory or words.

Bringing Children and Teens to Kemper House
We welcome young visitors at Kemper House and would be happy to help you plan a special activity for your loved one to enjoy with your children or teens during their visit. Whether it’s a craft project, a music session, or simply sharing a favorite snack, we can offer ideas and support to help create a positive and meaningful experience for everyone. Please don’t hesitate to reach out to our team if you’d like help preparing for your visit!

At Kemper House, we believe that involving the entire family strengthens emotional support for both our residents and their loved ones. Teaching children and teens about dementia not only builds compassion, it helps preserve the special bonds that remain meaningful, even as memory fades.